Bully Proofing our Children

How to Avoid Being a Victim of Bullying


Bullying has become one of the largest problems school have in recent years. Yes, there have always been bullies, and yes, those bullies have


always caused serious and lasting damage to their victims; however, bullying in the 21st century has changed – and not for the better. Bullies have gotten more aggressive and they appear more frequently.


The consequences of bullying can be devastating. Victims are more likely to experience a decrease in their academic performance, anxiety, depression, and behavioral problems. Most bullying goes unreported due to the fear of the behavior increasing or the lack of support given by parents and school staff.


Being that bullying is such a rampant problem in the United States, children need to be presented with methods that will teach them how to combat being the victim of the name calling, teasing, and harassment that are associated with bullying behavior.


How can kids avoid becoming the victim of a bully? Here are some tips that can be highly effective:


Be Confident.


Typically, bullies tend to prey on those who appear to lack confidence and who are unsure of themselves. If a bully sees that someone is lacking confidence, he or she is more likely to target that individual and harass that person. Bullies pick on the smallest and weakest looking student to make themselves look bigger and stronger as a way to intimidate other children into supporting their negative actions.


Being confident is one of the most effective ways to avoid being bullied. Kids need to have self-confidence, and they need to be able to project that confidence outward. Parents can help build their children’s confidence by building them up and supporting them. When children know that they are valued, they automatically have confidence. Kids can exude their inner confidence by standing tall, making eye contact, being friendly and taking pride in their appearance.


Gain the Support of Friends.


One or two great friends is worth more than 100 fair-weather friends. This is especially true if someone wants to avoid being bullied.


Kids should pick their friends wisely, and should gather their support. Remaining in contact with those friends – walking down the school halls with them, sitting with them on the bus, or eating with them in the cafeteria – will prevent a bully from targeting a child. Typically, bullies tend to take aim at children who are ‘loners.’ Support from friends is a highly powerful force against bullies.


Having the support of friends can also boost a child’s confidence. Bullies are more likely to target children who are isolated from the rest of the group. Bullies choose the path of least resistance and one child is much easier to intimidate than a group of children.